Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Coming soon

Wow I had no idea how quickly the time had passed since my last blog. The past year and a half have been very crazy for my family and me. My wife was diagnosed with breast cancer, and I had a heart attack. I think that is way too much excitement for us. We are trying to get back on track and get moving forward, but I am slower these days. I promise to be diligent in finding new things to post about in the near future. If you have any suggestions' please let me know.

Friday, December 31, 2010

HAPPY NEW YEAR!! I hope and pray that each of you have a blessed New Year.

Sunday, March 7, 2010


Wow where to begin. I am pessimistic by nature and have a very hard time in this area. How many times have we heard a child say 'I can't do that" or "I'm not smart enough". I have, in fact I have told myself those very same things. We usually respond to the children by telling them you can do anything if you try or you are smarter than you think. Why do we tell our children to be more positive and yet we ourselves are not. We tell ourselves all kinds of crazy things. We tell ourselves "no one likes me", "I can't change", and "I'm dumb". We say so many things to ourselves that just are not true. The worst is yet to come though, we start telling ourselves my spouse "doesn't care anymore", my spouse "does not love me", my spouse "is lazy" the list goes on and on. You know I'm telling the truth. Well how do we break free and live happier lives? That is the ten million dollar question isn't it. The truth is that it is a constant battle, start by actually paying more attention to what you are self talking. Most of us have done it so long that the negative is much easier and natural. We have to work hard and change that pattern. This simple change could be the difference between saving ourselves and marriages and destroying them. Chose today to start a better self-talk session with yourself…..

Monday, March 1, 2010

Connections Part 2

It is very difficult to try and re-connect with a spouse when we are looking through our own lenses or eyes. We say things to ourselves like, he/she hasn't done anything for me why should I be the one to start. Or he/she won't even notice. Well the truth is that they may not have done anything to deserve our change, or they may not notice what you do. So what, if you want things to be different you must take charge. You can make a difference in your life and that of your spouse. The changes may not be immediate but if you look for good you will find it. The rut we get into is that we look for the bad only. Try to find at least one good thing your spouse has done today and build from that.

Monday, February 22, 2010

In Loving Memory

Last night a saint was called home. She was one of those people that you just couldn't help falling in love with. She radiated heaven and Jesus, in her short 90 years with us here on earth. She had a gleam in her eye like a little child, but the wisdom of a sage. Words cannot do her justice. Only by knowing her could you understand that while heaven is rejoicing the rest of us left behind are saddened. I have mysteriously been smiling rather than crying though. I keep thinking of her talks about the love she had for God and Jesus. I find myself imagining her great big beautiful smile is bigger than ever as she walks down the road of gold, seeing her loved ones welcoming her home. I know that heaven is great but I can't help think it is a little bit better today.
Dedicated to Granny Mae Wootton

Friday, January 29, 2010


The other day I came home after a rough day at work and decided I wanted to be alone. I went to my desk and began facebooking and playing some computer games. The rest of the family was in the living room and I was happy as a lark. After a few hours my youngest daughter came in to the room and said “why are you in here alone when the rest of us are in the living room”. I dismissed it at first and latter realized my daughter was telling me that she wanted some of my time. While I just wanted to shut the world out I was shutting my loved ones out as well. Did I mean to do that? Did I want my family to think that I didn’t care about them? The answer is a resounding NO. I realized that I was being selfish and not putting my family first. I also realized that this often occurs to our relationships with our spouses. We get so busy and beat down by the everyday hum drum life that we forget what it is that is important to us. We begin to see only faults in our spouses. He doesn’t treat me like he used to or she doesn’t care anymore. The thief in this is time. Responsibilities take precious time from us leaving us empty and not wanting to work on our relationships (connections). We forget to write that little note saying I love you or that flower just because. We are actually the ones that help to reinforce the current status quo. As in the case of my daughter, I could have went in there and sat down and spent some time with her but I would have done it with one goal in mind. That goal would have been to please her so that I could get back to quality self time. Would that have worked? I say no. She would have picked up on my insincerity and the time spent together would not have accomplished what she nor I wanted. I gave it some thought and posted a large note on her door. The note expressed how much I loved her and how awesome she was to me. She found it the next day. I can’t say that she said anything about it but she did seem more affectionate. I saw a change in her with a simple pin and paper. I guess what I am trying to say is decide to make a change in yourself to do small things that will add up in a big way. Rather than make ourselves do something that will seem fake or plastic. Go on a date, it can be in your house with some candles or music etc. Make some notes, tell your significant other you love the way they _______(fill in the blank). Don’t just say I love you show it. The connections may take a while but if you are persistent in your subtleties it will pay off. You have to figure out how to reconnect with your spouse or children in a way that makes them feel appreciated and not in a way that would make you feel appreciated. The self sacrifice is difficult and not easy to stick with, but if you do the payoff is enormous.

Saturday, January 16, 2010


I don't know about you but I have to battle my attitude on a regular basis. I have to work hard to have a good attitude. Cursing sometimes helps but then you have to watch where you are.(funny) I like to try and find something good to focus on during the situation. Sometimes even just listening to a song I like helps. No sad or depressing songs though. If today was your last day by Nickelback is one that I like. It makes me think of all the blessings in my life. Oh well just my thoughts of the day...